After highlighting a Muslim couple dealing with sexual problems, the TLC channel showed a Mormon couple with their own sexual problems. Â I was frankly astonished at how the couple portrayed Mormon beliefs, because it seems quite outdated. Â In the show (available on Netflix), Nate and Monique state that are members of the LDS Church, and that premarital sex is wrong. Â I can’t disagree with that, but what Nate said at the beginning of the show, I do not agree with. Â Nate said (talking over a shot of the Salt Lake Temple),
“In the Mormon Church, sex is for the purpose of procreation. Â I’ve been taught all along that sexual pleasure is of the devil.” Later on in the show, he stated, “After 15 years of marriage, I seldom gave myself to even think about what my ideal sex life would be like, because that would be wrong. Â In the Mormon Church that’s not something that should be done for any reason other than procreation.“
Excuse me??? Â Let’s see what theÂ LDS Handbook states:
“Married couples should also understand that sexual relations within marriage are divinely approved not only for the purpose of procreation, but also as a way of expressing love and strengthening emotional and spiritual bonds between husband and wife.“
I’ve never heard that sexual pleasure is of the devil, and I have no idea why this man (who appears to be about 40) felt that way. Â (Perhaps Nate is conflating premarital sex with married sex being of the devil?) Â Having been married for about 15 years with 3 children, the couple turned to a sex surrogate for help. It was at this point I learned that the wife had been sexually abused as a child, so it makes a bit of sense why she had issues, but it appears that her husband’s issues were much stronger.
They turned to Mare Simone, a sex surrogate to help their sex life. Â Unlike the Muslim couple in my previous post, Mare visited their home instead of having them come into a clinic. Â Mare said, “I am a certified sex surrogate Â and personal love coach.” Â TLC defined a sex surrogate as “a member of a sex therapy team who engages in intimate physical relations or sex with a patient.”
Nate stated what he first thought when Monique brought up the idea of using a sex surrogate. Â “When Monique first told me about wanting to meet with Mare, I was confused. Â Honestly my opinion would have been not that much different than a hooker.”
Mare indicated that was a common perception. Â “I know a lot of people feel that a sex surrogate is a prostitute, but really nothing could be further from the truth.” Â They worked first on Monique’s previous sexual trauma, helping her to feel that pleasure was safe. Â But Nate seemed to have even more difficulty. He indicated that “Sex for me is scary.” Â At one point in the show (there was no nudity), Monique, Mare, and Nate participated in a touching session on their bed. Â Nate exclaimed “I feel shame.” Â Mare indicated, “I thought Nate was gonna run away.”
Mare indicated that “I prepared to help them recognize the spiritual quality of sexuality. Â It’s not an easy process. Â It’s a matter of overlaying a positive thought with a negative thought.” Â I guess it is just surprising to me that they could have 3 children and yet have so many sexual problems after 15 years of marriage, though I am sure that every couple experiences problems at some point.